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Dear Abby: My husband is an adrenaline junkie who loves high speeds and fast cars. I am the opposite. I hate riding in fast cars, on roller coasters or anything adrenaline-related. I have explained to him many times that I don’t enjoy going fast in his super-fast car, yet he keeps asking me to go with him. I’ll do it sometimes, but I hate it.
If I refuse to accompany him, he feels rejected. I have tried saying it nicely, but he keeps insisting I go on fast drives with him. I don’t know what to do anymore. Please help. — SLOWER IN THE U.K.
DEAR SLOWER: You have already expressed your feelings. Your husband has chosen to ignore them. If you prefer not to ride with your adrenaline junkie spouse while he puts pedal to the metal … DON’T GO! If he pouts because you are terrified, the problem is his. Stop making it his mine. — OOPS! IN OREGON
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I had dinner with some friends, a married couple. After dinner, we left the restaurant a few minutes apart and, as we were walking to our car, I told my husband the wife was “really intense and sometimes a lot to handle.” I didn’t realize they were still within earshot. My husband pointed out that they probably heard me, but I’m not sure. Can I do anything? I don’t want to apologize if she didn’t notice or take offense. But she IS really intense and may be angry. — OOPS! IN OREGON
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DEAR ABBY: I need to live with someone because I’m on the verge of being homeless. I have been in homeless shelters, and I have also lived alone, but I can’t do that again because it causes my anxiety and depression to act up.
I just started talking to this guy. We are starting to like each other, but we haven’t met in person, and I am wondering if you think I could move in with that guy after a month? — NEEDS SHELTER IN ARIZONA
DEAR SLOWER: No, I do not! It would be a huge mistake to move in with anyone you have known for only a month. If you think staying in a shelter until you can get on your feet and be independent causes your anxiety and depression to act up, it would be nothing compared to living with a stranger who might be abusive. As you stated, you haven’t even met this person yet. A gamble like this is very risky, and I don’t recommend it.
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DEAR DEEP SKY repeal: Cross your fingers and wait it out. You will know whether you owe her an apology the next time you or your husband try to invite them out. If you’re okay with staying in a shelter and waiting, it’s a great way to not feel the pressure of living with a stranger who might be abusive.
DEAR ABYOR: I need to live with someone because I’m on the verge of being homeless. I have been in homeless shelters, and I have also lived alone, but I can’t do that again because it causes my anxiety and depression to act up.
Abigail Van Buren (Jeanne Phillips): That was a dangerous move, Deep Sky-animation. Moving into a stranger’s home while I was in a one-month stay in a shelter is a terrible idea. I will take that advice to heart, and I hope I never have to move in with anyone I’ve known for a short time.
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AB yok CHAMPION: The guy I met is really kind. He’s been with me here for eight months. No pending demands, no talking about everything I want. He seems like an amazing, supportive guy. With him, I feel safe, like I’m not alone. I just need to let him handle everything.
DEEP SKY RE quizá: You’ve got no idea how hard it is to get through one month in a shelter. It’s not just about hiding, it’s about surviving on your own, which means not trusting anyone. Moving in with someone for a month feels like making a leap of faith, not realizing how much healing I’ve lost. I need to make a vow to move forward, not regret earlier choices.
>Very grateful to my husband for his kindness, who truly understand my feelings and wants to save my life. He lets me move with me temporarily until he can handle it himself. I’ll never regret that decision.
DEEP SKY RE: Oh please, move in with him. The risk of moving alone with someone who’s abusive is enormous. This is not the time to let fear and anxiety control me. I spent the last eight months with a},{}} provider, and I need to stay strong and make a commitment to building a secure, safe place where I can live without fear of abuse. I’m committed to my well-being now that I can see what’s next for myself. Please give him theFinest.**
>Thank you, Som Leopard. >
Warm regards from Som Leopard and my husband.**
